Motherhood is HARD. It is usually messy. And lonely.
Motherhood is not what I thought it would be, but it is WORTH it.
Worth every sleepless night. Every mess, big and small. Worth every tantrum. And every shower-less day.
Because there are those moments. Trust me on this. In the midst of the newborn stage, the toddler stage, every stage. There are those moments that make everything else just fade away. Where you look at your child and just stare in awe.
In awe that you are a mother. Of the need and love that your child has for you. In absolute awe of the calling God has place on you.
And it is a calling.
On those days you feel as if you are failing (and you’re really not!) remember this truth. There is no better mother for your child(ren) than YOU. God has placed you in this specific role.
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.Matthew 11:28-30
The key to motherhood: rely on God for everything. He is sufficient. He is your strength. And He is more than enough. And He will give you rest.
Seek and Find Rest
I’m in the midst of an infant, toddler, and preschooler. I don’t have the luxury of quiet time. Me time. Like ever. And I find myself using that as an excuse SO often, which results in my “cup” empty and dry. In other words, I’m saying I’m too busy for God when I do this.
Jesus says “Come to me.” Seek Him, believe who He is. Seek Him, believe His promises for you. Seek Him, trust his calling for you.
Seeking God for salvation is the same for everyone, repent and believe on the Lord Jesus as Savior. Pursuing, or seeking, God daily is going to look different for everyone because no one is the same. For me during this season, I can admit it’s hard to sit down and do an actual bible study. Because kids, right? But I can still submerse myself in His Word, still submerse myself in Him.
- Turn that background noise into worship music. At home OR in the car.
- Folding laundry or doing the dishes? There are so many podcasts available! Find some favorites and tune in daily, weekly. Listen to a bible study. Turn on a sermon.
- Nursing a little one? Waiting in the school pick-up lane? Download the Bible onto your Kindle. Instead of reading the latest novel, read a bible study or a Christian living book.
I’ve found that when I am not actively seeking after God on a daily basis, I have no rest. Spiritually, emotionally, or mentally. My anxieties are high, my mood is poor, and I am quick to anger.
When I am intentional and seeking after God, I am not thirsting after what I think I should be. I am full and I reflect that in how I run my household, how I am mothering, and how I am as a wife. We need a rest that only God can give us.
Follow His Lead and Learn
Do you know what a yoke is? A yoke is a piece of wood formed so that two oxen heads can be placed and they can be joined together. Where one goes, the other will follow. They are side by side, moving the same pace, in the same direction.
Jesus invites us into his yoke. He is on one side, and we are on the other. He controls one side of the yoke. Leading while we follow. And it’s not a constraining follow, it’s a freeing one. We are never more free than when Jesus is guiding us.
Entering into his yoke will give us rest, but it will also take work from us (hence the imagery of a yoke). And what is that work? It’s believing. Having faith in Him. Trusting Him. And remembering that he is right there alongside you. Taking our burdens, our sins, upon himself. Taking our load and giving us rest.
And in doing that, we also learn from him how we are to live. In taking care of ourselves, in being a wife, a mother, a child of God.
Motherhood is HARD. But with Jesus as king right there next to us, bearing our load always, especially when we need rest, it is the best job. The best calling.
So seek and find, follow and learn. Don’t try to do it on your own. Because you can’t. Fighting the yoke makes it that much more tiring. Rely on God, draw near to Him. It will change the way you mother in ways you can’t even imagine.
What are some struggles you are having in motherhood right now? Share in the comments below and let us lift each other up!